Tuesday, March 30, 2010

3.30.10

I finished a meeting with a client in a nearby town, and decided to go see Lyra. They had gotten the headstone in already! I didn't have our camera with me, so this is taken with my phone. I think the stone looks great though. I used a wooden stake to tie the tiger to, and got a flower from the local shop to leave. I might get a fake one to keep the site pretty longer. Missing her mighty bad though. 


I don't know how to explain this very well, but this feels like the last parental thing we could do to take care of her. Everything from here on out is for remembrance and to keep her part of our lives.


12 comments:

  1. I am so very sorry.

    Through what you share here (and in many other ways bo doubt) you honor Lyra with such grace and love.

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  2. Glad you have a place to go to remember Lyra. As you say, it's the last parental thing you get to do for her. People were shocked that we wanted to bury our babies (rather than have the hospital "dispose" of them), but it was the only thing we as parents could do for them and we wanted it done right.

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  3. Yep, I felt the same about designing Hope's plaque.
    What an awful thing we have to do.

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  4. Lyra's spot is lovely.

    You will find other parental things to do for her memory as time goes on. Sometimes it is simply bristling to protect her against unthoughtful words, or creating art in her memory, or anything you do as you think of her. None of this is the same, of course, as actually parenting your daughter, but in our reality, those are the only things we have.

    Sending love as you miss your little Lyra with all your heart.

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  5. Lyra's headstone is beautiful. I understand what you mean about doing a last parental thing for her. I felt the same way. xx

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  6. It's a beautiful headstone, but not as beautiful as Lyra was. I'm sorry.

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  8. (Ooops!) That's a beautiful headstone. I understand about you thinking taking care of her grave is one of the last parental things to do. XO

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  9. i thought i commented yesterday, but it was from my phone and sometimes it is wonky-
    her headstone is lovely. very simple , yet beautiful. i need to do order Aquila's still. everytime i have tried , i lose it..

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  10. tiger beside her
    watching over her
    ever vigil
    constant care
    tiger beside her
    sun out, moon out
    ever vigil
    constant care
    tiger beside her
    ice, rain, hail, snow
    ever vigil
    constant care
    tiger beside her
    clouds high, stars bright
    ever vigil
    constant care
    tiger beside her
    safe and nestled
    ever vigil
    constant care
    tiger beside her
    soldier, angel
    ever vigil
    constant care
    tiger beside her
    peace assuring
    ever vigil
    constant care.


    (vigil: to watch: a purposeful surveillance to guard or observe) for your lyra and in memory of my little lost one

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  11. Anonymous - I don't have a way to get in touch with you, but thank you for your poem. It is quite perfect for Lyra and her tiger, and your little one. Thank you.

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  12. graves and headstones...

    Amy is right though in my experience, they are not the last act of parenting we get to do for our children, the opportunities are small and subtle but when they arise, they are little treasures.

    Love to you
    xo

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